How to be a Good Listener

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One of the best ways to communicate your love to your child is to listen to him. Attentive listening, giving your child your full attention and letting him speak without interrupting or judging, shows respect for your child, and helps to build self-esteem.

It makes a child feel confident that his opinions, interests and thoughts are worth listening to. It encourages him to open up and communicate with you. And it is also one of the best ways of keeping in touch with your child and how he is developing, especially as he goes through the teenage years, when you are likely to be surprised by some of the changes taking place.

 Show that you are interested when he talks. Make eye contact (with smaller children this may mean getting down to their height), face him directly and lean in towards him.

 Be open. Don’t cross your arms or hunch forward in an aggressive way. If your child feels judged before he even starts he’ll clam up.

 Let him finish. Don’t interrupt with your views or interpretations until he’s had his say; if he dries up just ask a few open questions (What? Why? How?) to encourage him to carry on.

 Reflect back what you hear. You can do this by repeating some of the words or phrases your child has used, or his last sentence, or by commenting on his emotional reactions – for example, ‘You seem angry’ – to show him that you understand what he’s telling you.

 Be unshockable. Children often say things for effect, to test your reactions, and shrieking in horror might make him clam up.

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Jamuan Raya TCB 2010

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Alhamdulillah,segala puji hanya bagi Allah..

Sabtu lepas,25 September 2010,TCB telah mengadakan jamuan raya untuk anak-anak didik TCB dan keluarga mereka.Bermula seawal 7.30am,para tea mulai sibuk membuat persiapan akhir. 8.45am,parent mulai datang.

Agenda bermula dengan kata-kata aluan daripada Pn pengerusi,ukht Lily Muliana Mustafa.

Seterusnya slot bersama parent,tapi dek kerana semua penceramah yang dijemput tidak dapat hadir,saya terpaksa memikirkan sesuatu untuk mengisi kekosongan slot tersebut. 4.30am baru dapat idea,huhu,Alhamdulillah. Akhirnya saya memilih untuk berkongsi kupasan sebuah buku ~ Discover Your Child's Learning Style~ karangan Mariaemma Willis & Victoria Kindle Hodson.

Aktiviti diteruskan dengan aktiviti parents~mereka perlu menulis kad untuk anak-anak.







Seterusnya persembahan anak-anak yang paling dinanti,seronok melihat keletah mereka,huhu.Bersemangat para ibubapa merakam aksi anak masing-masing.


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Selesai persembahan dan pemberian duit raya,para tetamu dijemput menjamu selera. Alhamdulillah segalanya berjalan lancar.Terima kasih yang tidak terhingga kepada para tea dan teman-temna yang membantu menjayakan majlis ini.Juga kepada para ibubapa yang begitu supportive,jazakumullahu khayran jazak (",)

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